“Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies.” This quote from Robert Greene’s book, (You can order here ) cautions against blind trust. Greene argues that trusting friends and allies too much leaves you vulnerable. It’s wiser to be more prudent and calculating, even skeptical, of those close to you.
I used to readily trust friends and wanted to see only the good in them. I shared sensitive information, relied on them, and gave them the benefit of the doubt. But I’ve been betrayed often enough now that I’m much more cautious.
In my personal life, I’ve had friends secretly date people they knew I disliked or had history with. I’ve shared weaknesses only to have them thrown in my face later during arguments. Friends I leaned on during hard times have disappeared when they found relationships and no longer needed me. This makes one to only rely on self.
These experiences taught me to be more discerning about who to fully trust in my inner circle. I now take things slowly when building new alliences. I observe consistency between words and actions before making a move. If I have doubts, I keep certain friends at arm’s length rather than giving unlimited trust.
That said, Greene also notes the upside of “enemies” - people in opposition can reveal vulnerabilities to improve. Insights from critics, if considered objectively, can make you stronger and more self-aware. You can still learn from flawed people by understanding their incentives and unvarnished perspectives.
Trust can be fragile, especially when self-interest gets involved. Proceed with open eyes rather than blind loyalty. Invest trust slowly based on demonstrated character. Keep private information and assets protected. Surround yourself with friends who uplift you, not those who will capitalize on moments of weakness. Apply wisdom and discernment to trust - it can save much heartache down the road.